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In this episode of "ZAP!" Matthew answer the question "Why is everyone so interested in knowing who's the top and who's the bottom in a gay couple or relationship?'
what I've found is that, aside from idle interest, most people asking this question might just be trying to figure out who has the "power" in a relationship. Historically (and I'm going to be very broad here) in a straight relationship, the man was the one with the power, and the woman had very little to speak of. For that matter, she had very little to speak about. IF SHE KNEW WHAT WAS GOOD FOR HER!
So people's interest in figuring out who's the top and who's the bottom in a gay couple, I think stems from them wanting to know who's the "man" and who's the "woman."
QUICK SIDE NOTE: has anyone seen the movie RENT? Did it bug you how both of the same-sex couples in that movie had clearly defined gender roles? One, "man" and one "woman?" Did that bug you? No? Watch it again... Now answer me this: does it bug you that the movie sucks?
So, I think what it boils down to is this: we all want to fit the world into a nice, tight little box, and figuring out who is putting what into which person is part of that desire to classify things.
My question for YOU is this: have YOU ever been asked if you're a top or a bottom? Do you think straight people or gay people are more concerned with answering this question? Did you like the movie RENT? If so, why? If not, congratulations.
That does it for this Monday, I will see you all next week, and stay tuned for This Thursday and Friday for guest ZAP! Panelists who will answer this question as well.
As always, if you have questions for these ZAP!s, email me at MAILmachelli@gmail.com, and until next Monday, try to stay out of the dark!